RELATIONHIP THURSDAY: LET'S TALK FOREPLAY....

Let’s talk about “FOREPLAY”

Foreplay.....yeah you’ve probably heard of it, but how much do you really know about it? Perhaps you’ve written it off as a waste of your time, and idly wondered whether it’s really necessary.

I'm going to explain why foreplay is hugely important for your sex life (yes, yours), and as a bonus, teach you how to do it. And do it well.

So what is foreplay? I call foreplay the “god” of all sexual activities because it leads to all sort of sexual satisfaction. Did you know that 70% of woman reach orgasm by clitoris stimulation? (.......I bet you didn't) and clitoris stimulation can only be carried out during foreplay. Don’t worry I will teach you how to become a PRO in it (*wink*).

It’s important to learn about foreplay and how to do it (and do it well, don’t forget) so you can become a more caring lover for your partner. Not only will you soon be named their Ultimate Sex god or goddess, you will also make sure that sex is actually comfortable for both of you, which in turn will lead to your having a more enjoyable sex.

Although our bodies can certainly be ready for sex in an instant, especially men who require an erection for penetrative sex, our minds can take a while to catch up. Being mid-way through sexual intercourse when your brain has barely recognized that you’re now ‘obligated’ to feel aroused is not enjoyable or arousing for anyone involved.

For women, it’s even more important that there is a meeting of mind and body when it comes to arousal. The vagina produces natural lubricant, for sure but this will occur more readily and comfortably once the woman involved is adequately ''turned on''.

Signals from the brain are responded to in kind by the body, making the vagina ready to be penetrated with the comfort afforded by her natural lubrication as well as her mental stimulation and arousal levels.

How on earth do you ‘do’ foreplay? It’s a matter of taking your time to find out both what you enjoy; sexually, physically and mentally as well as what your partner enjoys. There’s a rich variety of ways in which you can experience foreplay and make it a substantial and effective part of your sex life.

Let’s dive into How to make your partner Crazy about you every damn time with the use of the ultimate tool “FOREPLAY”

Talk to each other about what makes you feel happy and satisfied with your sex life, what you like being done to your body, and what ''turns you on'' as well as what ''turn you off''. Communication is a MAJOR KEY *in djkhlad’s voice*.

Ask your partner what they would like you to do to them and if there are any fantasies they haven’t yet revealed which you could help fulfill.

Dirty talking with your partner is essential, stimulate the mind with words, Tell them what you want to do to them and how you want to do it and be very detailed.....yes overly detailed..*wink*

Once you get to the bedroom, make sure you have all the necessary essentials close to hand. It’s really not conducive to an erotic atmosphere to run out of lube at just the wrong moment, or to spend 20 minutes hunting for condoms.

Don’t rush straight into sex, the chances are your partner won’t be entirely ready to receive you even if you feel ready mentally and physically.

Tease both yourself and your partner by deliberately waiting before sex. Explore each other’s bodies, staying away from the sexual zones for quite some time and paying attention to possibly neglected yet sensitive areas; their neck, back, face, hands, thighs and wherever you both find out that you enjoy connecting

Introduce some sensual massage oil or sex lubricants which double as massage gels. A friction less glide between bodies can heighten the enjoyment of an erotic massage session, as well as encouraging the body to produce that natural lubricant. The feel of your lover’s hands on you with the assistance of massage oils will help to arouse your mind and senses, urging your body to follow.
Don’t underestimate the power of your hands and fingers. They’re not just for holding each other or “gliding it in”, your fingers are amazing foreplay tools in their own right.

A light touch between her labia once she’s becoming more aroused, or a gentle stroke down the shaft of his lubricated penis can lead to firmer and bolder strokes as the sex session progresses. If you’re interested in role play, erotic spanking can become a fantastic accompaniment to foreplay and intimate scenes before any actual sexual intercourse takes place.

Kissing can become a neglected part of couples’ intimate life, especially in long term relationships. Kissing is an enjoyable way for couples to bond and feel connected before sex or without the need for sex right in that moment.

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Your mouth and tongue are also fantastic tools for the arousal of your partner, before sex happens. Kissing other parts of their body than their mouth can be incredibly intoxicating and the discovery of new sensitive areas will be a sure-fire route to mental as well as physical seduction.

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If you’re still not sure about how to turn your partner on, or you feel you’d both like to try something other than manual stimulation with fingers and mouth, why not experiment with a few sex toys? There are lots of couples’ massages and sex toys you can use during foreplay to add anything from a teasing tingle to a ''bonk-tastic buzz''…...Yummy.

BONUS TIP

Don’t forget your fingers and tongue are essential in the act of foreplay. I'd teach you how to use them in the next episode *wink*.

For those in a relationship, devoting time and attention to the art of foreplay will lead to a fuller and more satisfying sex life. In addition, the exploration of each other’s bodies, it will make you feel more connected as a couple and strengthen your relationship bond. They feel more cared about as a whole, and you enjoy a comfortable, passionate romp every time you decide to have sex.

Is foreplay important? Most definitely. Next time you decide to have sex, don’t just skip the appetizer and dive into the main dish.