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Hey Guys! It's Friday and the week is almost ended and we are moving into a new month (so excited, Xmas is just around the corner. Who is so excited with me?). I wanted to write on one of my many wedding dramas but I guess that story has to wait.         I was recently talking to a friend of mine when he passionately mentioned that he didn't believe in "After life compliment". He worried that people wait for odd times to do something nice or even say something nice. At people's funeral, the eulogy would be so passionate and awesome and perhaps they never got the chance to say so many of those beautiful things to the person. Dead people don't hear, instead of waiting for odd times like that, sieze every opportunity to say something sweet to someone. Generally people feel so good when they are paid a compliment. Even sadists would admit to that. Paying a compliment to a person or showing gratitude is a huge sign of humility and integrity. It takes a

Hello guys ! I have decided to make Thursdays a ''relationship talk day''. I'm really not an expert and I just know very little on relationships, but that 'little' may go a long way in helping someone.                          I was travelling early last month and I came across a book. The name was so funny and alluring that I just had to buy it. Why Men Marry Bitches by Sherry Argov. (You'll should read the book especially the ladies. It's really nice.). Even with how voluninous the book was, I finished it in two days. It was quite educating.                         After digesting the contents of the book, it kept me wondering about so many things. The book majorly talked about how to get your man to propose and giving some exclusive relationship secrets. The author was wise enough to teach ladies how to silently manipulate a man into popping the question. (I havn't tried it out though which explains why am not married yet...heheheheh

I finally got home after a long Sunday. I was a little tipsy from the wine I took (that explains why I was upset that he liked me and yet couldn't stay behind to talk to me.........hehehehe). I kind of like the after effect of alcohol. The unnecessary misbehaviors and plenty talks.           Early the next day, I woke up to his call. He apologized for calling so early.  "Nana, I wanted to ask if you would be less busy in the evening. Maybe we could have dinner together"    he stammered.  I didn't quite get that. He was not asking me out on a date with the word 'maybe' boldy attached to it. I kept quiet, not exactly sure of what to say and the word maybe ringing in my head. Then the other end of the line was quiet. Seconds later he spoke again.         "I'll call you later in the day so we could fix a time for our dinner". He hung up. Later in the day, I expected his call but he never called. I guessed he was busy as usual. Just to m

It was another Sunday morning. She woke up so excited. Rushed into the bathroom and was out in seconds. She got ready her 'special dress' for service the previous day. His thoughts flashed through her mind, then she smiled uneasily. It seemed like she went to church on Sundays just to see him. Watching him sing and hit the drums with so much passion. Everything about him was perfect. The first day she set her eyes on him , she was instantly charmed by his looks. He had the perfect height . She heard his voice from the church gate and  she fell in love with his voice.                         As she moved closer, she could hear his baritone voice worshipping God effortlessly. She stepped into the church and looked up to see who was singing. She saw the most handsome man she has ever seen her whole life (at least to her). She smiled deeply and confirmed it was love not lust. How could it not be love. She already loved him before she could see his face.                    

Our everyday life choices matters alot. The choices we make towards our dreams, our visions and life generally are very important and a determining factor of who we are. But what really counts is the choice we have towards life in particular. You have the choice to act upon life or allow life to merely act upon you.                     It's easier to choose the former (Acting upon life), but it's our everyday activities and outcomes that are the true representative of what we actually have settled for.  Life can be depressingly sad. It's not enough that news of natural disaster hits the ear almost every now and then but the appalling situation of things is not helping matters at all. I must appluade your courage to read through this column (even without brightly coloured paintings and pictures) cause it's really not easy. Life has a way of silently and persistently telling us we can't go any futher. The means to our big dreams crushing right infront of our e

Recently I just discovered something about relationships. It had not really occured to me but I started noticing it lately and I just had to address it. The way people take relationship these days is so baffling. They wake up one morning and out of nowhere they want to be in a relationship. (like it's a child's play or it's worth nothing). The way people prepare for marriage should be the way they should prepare for relationships, since its the first step to marriage. In my own opinion, marriage and relationships are basically the same thing except for the intimacy/sex (which happens in most relationships now and that does not mean it's right) and the blessings from a Priest. The other things are basically the same thing. Being in a relationship entails so much. It's not just a fling, hearts are involved, emotions, ideas, sharing of visions and goals. People in relationships virtually plan their lives together and impact each other directly or indirectly. Am ju

                      So I sat patiently waiting for my turn. I had no friends and my friends from secondary school had all chosen a different choice of university (thanks to my parents who wanted me to stay close as if I was still being breast fed....Phew! !). It finally got to my turn and the woman just knew how tired I was and hurriedly settled me. The whole environment was new to me and since I was naturally inquisitive, I didn't have a problem finding my way around. I located a girl I had previously over heard telling her friends she has been allocated same hostel with me.              I smiled up to her and asked if she was heading my way. She said she was assigned same hostel so we can go together. As we slowly took our time to get to the hostel, we started discussing (trust girls and gists). She shared her story of how she was deeply hurt by her ex. He took my virginity she chuckled, but that was not what hurt me the most. You can imagine when you love a boy and allow

                                                                  Part two ! ! ! Dear diary, I am so moody. I feel like its only me in this world who is in search of love. Everybody seems perfectly in love or they are just fine and OK in their perfect world. I feel its only you I can talk to and you wouldn't talk back to me. People would never be able to recognize a good person. Its always the good girls that don't get the best. They would rather prefer the one who plays games and lies to their face. (OK enough of my rantings, it would never help me).    I went on a date with him (Moses). At first I thought he was not worth the try or effort but I still went along so I wouldn't push away my "good luck" unknowingly. He did it.........he opened the door for me to enter the car and when we got to the restaurant, he did the same thing. (Gosh!! I can't remember the last time someone did that for me or the last time I saw a man do it for his lady........only

Hello Guys! Life is filled with lessons. (I know you are wondering where am heading to with such an introduction. Just relax and read on because you will certainly enjoy it.) Life has a combination of the good, the bad, the ugly and of course the bitter experiences. They all make life what living and having to experience only one particular side of life makes one half baked and 'unfit' (in my own term). Growing up gives us a taste of the different sides but childhood was exceptionally fun. Playing on the sand, building our magnificent castles with sand, talking to dolls and having imaginary families and acting roles in our perfect world. Not having to worry about anything and when a need arose we happily asked for it with all assurance that it would be done. Then as most of our demands were been met we were equally reminded that life is not a bed of roses and as a child I often wondered what was so nice about a bed filled with roses that life should be likened to it. The w

Can my voice be heard? Can I ever make foot prints in the sands of time? How can I be relevant in life.           We ask these questions with a tinge of fear and most of the time having no clue as to where and how to begin our journey towards relevance. The first step to being relevant is the recognition that you are human and you have a space to occupy and it's in your little space that your impact would be felt and in turn affect the world at large. But where and how do I recognize and occupy my space someone may ask. Finding out our area of specialty leads us to a path of self discovery. The world is filled with so many gifted and unique individuals and you are one of such. Everyone has a space created for him/her. It's left for us to recognize it. Our daily struggles from education to business and wealth creation all boils down to not just our voices being heard but our making impact in the lives of others and being fulfilled living our dreams.              My space is

HELLO GUYS! This particular write up is a collection of my thoughts and what I have practiced over time and it has really yielded good results. I hope it would really be of help to someone. Procrastination is really a thief of time and even when we sincerely want to manage our time, the lazy mindset to procastinate comes in (Walahi, I wish I could murder procrastination). Time management wouldn't be so effective if we dont carefully plan and allot time to the things we want to achieve.                         I procrastinate alot and when I say alot I really do mean alot (I should be awarded a degree in it. That was then ooo, I'm a changed person now. hehehe!). I could wake up having so many things to do and at the end of the day I would push over to the next day 40%, probably forget 30% and end up achieving only 30%. That was how bad it was. I was so terrible at time management. I would always feel so pissed at not being able to accomplish certain things and I always missed

Hello Guys! I'm super excited about today's article and am so happy to be sharing with you all. On today's topic almost everyone is guilty including myself. I do it all the time before now. We sometimes or even all the time tend to compare everything about ourselves with others. We check the similarities, the differences, the areas we are better (that gives us a surge of happiness), areas we need to improve on and of course the aspects of our lives where others are better than we are (BOOM.......the tinge of bitterness!!). Virtually everything is comparable these days ranging from progress to finances, relationships, beauty, gadgets, body size etc. (The list is endless).  Almost everything and anything. The fact that we want to weigh our progress or achievements with others especially close friends or peers or even friends from 'way back 'is not totally a bad idea at all but the problem is the reasons why we do it and the attitude at which we do it is what really m

                                                                                                    Part one!   Finding your one true love can be very tiring, and believe me I have been on this hunt for a long time. No kidding! The long time I meant is not really long enough but its over a year now and am still searching for that spontaneous and sexy guy who will give me that butterfly feeling in my stomach and a fairy tale love life I always wanted.  Now I really don't think many girls out there find it difficult to find true love. Just maybe and the tiny little fact that I have a check list. Yes I said check list (you can tongue lash me all u want). I know it maybe too lame in this age to have a check list but I do have one. A girl  has to do what she has to do.  I know what I want in a man and I just decided to put it down as a reminder. I have equally heard the 'true love tale' of  falling in love with someone who was exact opposite of what you ever wanted.

At different points in our lives, we pass through a lot of things. Ranging from the sweet lovely stories(ooh....I love sweet stories.....who doesn't? I know you do too), to the terrible, heartbreaking ones. Those stories about us that keep giving us reasons to be depressed.  Most of the times we really want to talk about it but the problem is who do we talk to. E specially in this our generation where our '' friends'' turn out to be ''Amebos'' and would constantly judge us and make one even feel much more terrible than she/he already is. While some of these experiences make us a better person, some at the same time destroyed something inside of us and that scare has remained till this day.            Kender Talks shares stories and experiences that are educating enough to help someone or persons passing through similar ordeal to come out better. The blog is a platform for inspiration and encouragement( I know I have said this before and

  Hi I'm Christobel. I love writing, I really do. I write to inspire and motivate. we all need a dose or two of inspiration, If not daily at least at some points in our lives.  Some may be self sufficient enough to be motivated internally by themselves. Well am not really in that category. People's words inspire me and some times when am 'down', I just need to talk to certain persons or read certain types of books and am charged up again to continue my hustle........(yeah right...eyes rolling....we all want to make ends meet and live super comfortable lives.......I do too and that's what I termed hustle.)               Therefore knowing fully well that I am not the only one who needs encouragement every once in  a while, I decided to use my little contribution to help. My pen of course is my weapon of motivation and inspiration. Now asides writing for inspiration I basically write about everything. (yes I know I said 'everything'. and you may be