IT HAS TO BE BALANCED 👌 👌 👌

Hello guys !

I have decided to make Thursdays a ''relationship talk day''. I'm really not an expert and I just know very little on relationships, but that 'little' may go a long way in helping someone. 

                        I was travelling early last month and I came across a book. The name was so funny and alluring that I just had to buy it. Why Men Marry Bitches by Sherry Argov. (You'll should read the book especially the ladies. It's really nice.). Even with how voluninous the book was, I finished it in two days. It was quite educating. 

                       After digesting the contents of the book, it kept me wondering about so many things. The book majorly talked about how to get your man to propose and giving some exclusive relationship secrets. The author was wise enough to teach ladies how to silently manipulate a man into popping the question. (I havn't tried it out though which explains why am not married yet...hehehehehehe). 

                      Then again, few days ago I was checking some things on the internet and I came across an article tittled ''How to marry a rich man''. As a babe, I quickly clicked on it (I was curious to know cause I want to marry a rich man oo). The whole write up was so interesting and it made major sense. 

                     Linking back to the book I read  and the other books I had read in the past, I kept asking myself why most of the books educate only girls on how to live by the 'play book', how to get the man they want or how to make a man fall head over hills in love with 'em and propose. That got me thinking. 

                  Whatever happened to educating men as well on how to make a woman fall in love with them. There maybe books on that, but trust me they are few (and most of them dont read). Men equally need to be tutored on how to entice a girl and make her feel like a princess. How about writing books on how men should properly package themselves to become the hero the woman needs. 

                   

                            Well, I can not over emphasize this, but men need to step up when it comes to wooing a lady and knowing how to make her want more of you even when she is already with you. I remember the beautiful times of love letters and men trying out all the new words they had learnt that is connected to love just to impress the girl. The wooing game was so strong then and men made women feel like queens and princessess and the women in turn made men brave up like heros. It just didn't stop at getting the lady's attention, they had to keep the lady interested in the relationship. (I remember the day I stumbled into one of the lettters my Dad wrote my Mum. It was so cool. It was safely kept in an iron box and the 'oyibo' in the letter was great). 

                    The days are gone now. Men just walk up to a lady and carelessly drops the words to her without making her feel wanted (not to talk of needed). Yes, we ladies want to get married but not to jut any man. I'm not trying to talk down on the men but I'm trying to seek a balance. If the ladies are reading books on how to be the lady a man wants, the men should do the same. If am busy developing an interesting personality so that when my man meets me I'll be all he ever wanted, he should in turn prepare himself so he would be all I ever wanted. There should be a perfect balance and that's how relationships blossom. 

                    I love to see people in happy relationships. It just gives me joy when couples are deeply in love with themselves. Same way I get upset if I relationships are not going well. Either the love is onesided or the lies and pretense is just too much. So I'll keep saying my bit and hoping for the best in everyone's relationship (I'm seriously taking pills for someone else's headache)

                    In conclusion, I implore men to equally put their minds into becoming the best in a relationship. Dont leave all the work for the ladies. If the ladies are developing a passionate personality, do same. If they are seriously getting educated and cultured...............Men, please do the same. Make yourself desirable as well so that when two prepared minds come together in a relationship, a happy ending would be inevitable. 

                           

              Thanks for reading and do have a blessed day

                                                            

                                                                   Big hugs to you'll ! ! !