THE KENDER BRAND

How lovely when you hear the sound of his car coming into the compound every morning to take you to work. He waits for you to finish dressing up and he gladly opens the car door for his ''Queen'' to enter.  He helps you out in any way he can. He keeps the calling game on point and you don't need to worry about any heavy lifting, cause he gat your back. He is that perfect gentle man you always prayed and fantasized about.  Months or let's say weeks into this sweet romantic relationship you are seen hanging out with your female friends you abandoned when he was always there. Drinking your liquor to stupor and swearing the hell out of guys cause of a shattered emotion (Not heart). The purpose of this article (Maybe not article, but call it anything that comes to your mind) is to save you from such misery and heart break. To help you recognize the contenders in your life and weed  out the pretenders. The contenders for the purpose of this article...

  We have been talking about relationship deal breakers and this is a continuation. INVITED DISTRACTION: You can't be married or in a "serious" relationship and frequently hang out with a male or female who is single. That's what I call an invited distraction which will probably lead to more serious problems. Let me paint a picture so we will understand clearly what I mean. Clara is in a relationship with Ben. Clara has a colleague at work who is fond of always being around her.  She goes for lunch breaks with him which is alright. But then it extends to visits at home alone and hanging out on weekends. C'mon! that's stirring up the waters of emotion cause very soon she will start developing  affections for him  and probably start comparing him with Ben. So hanging around the opposite sex more frequent than normal spells trouble in block letters cause distractions like that are deal breakers. Invest your time with your partner. Don't wa...

So it's valentine season and the tension is very high. Great deals every where for lovers and If you ain't in a relationship you will seem very off this season.  Probably all your female friends you planned to have an all girls night out ditched you for a special date with their boyfriends. Not to worry, I've got your back. Well I have a great news for you dear single lady. You ain't alone and think about it.........It's just a day of the month and you can choose to make it very special for yourself and have all the fun.  Being single is such a wonderful stage of every woman's life. There are so many myths attached to being single and it has scared so many young girls that they dread being single.  They will raise an arm and a leg to be in a relationship just so they wouldn't seem off and unwanted. Some would rather be in an agonizing relationship rather than be alone. I love that single part of everyone's life including mine. No...

..............He walked into the restaurant and went directly to the second waitress. He seemed like he was so hungry and just needed to eat. Minutes later after eating he took his phone and got busy. I passed by, then I noticed he had his eyes glued on me. I fel t a little uncomfortable.  ''Excuse me'' I looked up and I was the only waitress in the restaurant. ''Can I help you sir'' I asked moving over to his table. ''Have we met before'', he asked looking seriously into my eyes. Same old line I thought to my self. He could have come up with a better line. ''Don't think we've met before sir''.  ''I could swear I've seen you somewhere'' I was in a hurry to leave so as not to be caught discussing with a customer, then he held my hand ''Can you sit?'' ''No sir, am on duty'' ''Just for a second'' ''Sir a second has passe...

So am basically sharing my thoughts on Marriage preparation/the wedding. Every thing about getting married is so excited that one can be carried away by the whole wedding preparation and forget the most important things. (I think I should have put a disclaimer at the beginning, but including it at the end is not bad. Its MY opinion) We often think about our weddings so much (especially the ladies......Oh yes, don't deny it). The color of the day, the number of asobei cloths, the most prestigious wedding hall to use, the best wedding planner to hire and most of all......the hash(#) tags. These whole things become more excited when the man or lady shows up and we are convinced he or she is the one. Once the proposals has been made, the whole wedding zest and gusto is unleashed Wait a minute........ Hold it right there..... First things first How many detailed information do you have about the man or lady you are about getting married to? This is where my actual tho...

NEEDINESS: Neediness is a desire for constant affirmation that your man/lady is still in love with you and would never leave you. In as much as we need that confirmation that our partner is still in love with us, a needy partner has a constant fear of being left. So he or she becomes clingy and this is emotionally draining for the other person.  A needy partner shows great deal of lack of self confidence thereby taking away every sweetness in the relationship.  Are you the needy one in a relationship? Think about this: Before you met your partner, you used to be alone or rather you used to be without him or her. Then why act like you can't suddenly survive without  him or her.  Times will come when your partner needs space away from any distraction which includes you. Respect the person's space and give them that privilege of an alone time. Nobody wants a needy partner, so instead of being tolerated in a relationship, put your acts together. Be in...

Every one wants a happy relationship but some like my friend would say are ''emotionally lazy'' to go about it. I see relationship as a big bank where deposits and investments are supposed to be made so as to have a happy and impressive relationship.  Think about how happy you are when you deposit some cool cash into your account. The though of a huge balance literally puts a smile on your face. That's the same way I see relationships. Big major deposits keeps both parties happy.  Relationship some say is full time work. That being true considering all the thinking, strategy, ideas, scheming and so on that a relationship involves. The work is a two way thing and without major deposits like care, affections, gifts, quality time, trust etc, the relationship would definitely go bankrupt and nothing left to salvage it. Further more, we should understand that what means a major deposit to a man may mean nothing to a woman. This is because men and women cl...