THE KENDER BRAND

Hey Guys! It's Friday and the week is almost ended and we are moving into a new month (so excited, Xmas is just around the corner. Who is so excited with me?). I wanted to write on one of my many wedding dramas but I guess that story has to wait.         I was recently talking to a friend of mine when he passionately mentioned that he didn't believe in "After life compliment". He worried that people wait for odd times to do something nice or even say something nice. At people's funeral, the eulogy would be so passionate and awesome and perhaps they never got the chance to say so many of those beautiful things to the person. Dead people don't hear, instead of waiting for odd times like that, sieze every opportunity to say something sweet to someone. Generally people feel so good when they are paid a compliment. Even sadists would admit to that. Paying a compliment to a person or showing gratitude is a huge sign of humility and integrity. It takes a

Hello guys ! I have decided to make Thursdays a ''relationship talk day''. I'm really not an expert and I just know very little on relationships, but that 'little' may go a long way in helping someone.                          I was travelling early last month and I came across a book. The name was so funny and alluring that I just had to buy it. Why Men Marry Bitches by Sherry Argov. (You'll should read the book especially the ladies. It's really nice.). Even with how voluninous the book was, I finished it in two days. It was quite educating.                         After digesting the contents of the book, it kept me wondering about so many things. The book majorly talked about how to get your man to propose and giving some exclusive relationship secrets. The author was wise enough to teach ladies how to silently manipulate a man into popping the question. (I havn't tried it out though which explains why am not married yet...heheheheh

I finally got home after a long Sunday. I was a little tipsy from the wine I took (that explains why I was upset that he liked me and yet couldn't stay behind to talk to me.........hehehehe). I kind of like the after effect of alcohol. The unnecessary misbehaviors and plenty talks.           Early the next day, I woke up to his call. He apologized for calling so early.  "Nana, I wanted to ask if you would be less busy in the evening. Maybe we could have dinner together"    he stammered.  I didn't quite get that. He was not asking me out on a date with the word 'maybe' boldy attached to it. I kept quiet, not exactly sure of what to say and the word maybe ringing in my head. Then the other end of the line was quiet. Seconds later he spoke again.         "I'll call you later in the day so we could fix a time for our dinner". He hung up. Later in the day, I expected his call but he never called. I guessed he was busy as usual. Just to m

It was another Sunday morning. She woke up so excited. Rushed into the bathroom and was out in seconds. She got ready her 'special dress' for service the previous day. His thoughts flashed through her mind, then she smiled uneasily. It seemed like she went to church on Sundays just to see him. Watching him sing and hit the drums with so much passion. Everything about him was perfect. The first day she set her eyes on him , she was instantly charmed by his looks. He had the perfect height . She heard his voice from the church gate and  she fell in love with his voice.                         As she moved closer, she could hear his baritone voice worshipping God effortlessly. She stepped into the church and looked up to see who was singing. She saw the most handsome man she has ever seen her whole life (at least to her). She smiled deeply and confirmed it was love not lust. How could it not be love. She already loved him before she could see his face.                    

Our everyday life choices matters alot. The choices we make towards our dreams, our visions and life generally are very important and a determining factor of who we are. But what really counts is the choice we have towards life in particular. You have the choice to act upon life or allow life to merely act upon you.                     It's easier to choose the former (Acting upon life), but it's our everyday activities and outcomes that are the true representative of what we actually have settled for.  Life can be depressingly sad. It's not enough that news of natural disaster hits the ear almost every now and then but the appalling situation of things is not helping matters at all. I must appluade your courage to read through this column (even without brightly coloured paintings and pictures) cause it's really not easy. Life has a way of silently and persistently telling us we can't go any futher. The means to our big dreams crushing right infront of our e

Recently I just discovered something about relationships. It had not really occured to me but I started noticing it lately and I just had to address it. The way people take relationship these days is so baffling. They wake up one morning and out of nowhere they want to be in a relationship. (like it's a child's play or it's worth nothing). The way people prepare for marriage should be the way they should prepare for relationships, since its the first step to marriage. In my own opinion, marriage and relationships are basically the same thing except for the intimacy/sex (which happens in most relationships now and that does not mean it's right) and the blessings from a Priest. The other things are basically the same thing. Being in a relationship entails so much. It's not just a fling, hearts are involved, emotions, ideas, sharing of visions and goals. People in relationships virtually plan their lives together and impact each other directly or indirectly. Am ju

                      So I sat patiently waiting for my turn. I had no friends and my friends from secondary school had all chosen a different choice of university (thanks to my parents who wanted me to stay close as if I was still being breast fed....Phew! !). It finally got to my turn and the woman just knew how tired I was and hurriedly settled me. The whole environment was new to me and since I was naturally inquisitive, I didn't have a problem finding my way around. I located a girl I had previously over heard telling her friends she has been allocated same hostel with me.              I smiled up to her and asked if she was heading my way. She said she was assigned same hostel so we can go together. As we slowly took our time to get to the hostel, we started discussing (trust girls and gists). She shared her story of how she was deeply hurt by her ex. He took my virginity she chuckled, but that was not what hurt me the most. You can imagine when you love a boy and allow